101 Ways to Make Great Friends by Nathaniel Ament
Unlock the Power of Authentic Connections – Your Ultimate Guide to Building Lifelong Friendships
My book aims to help introverts become more comfortable and knowledgeable about meeting new people and making more high-quality friends.
101 Ways to Make Great Friends serves as a comprehensive guidebook for individuals seeking to establish and maintain meaningful friendships in today's fast-paced world. Offering practical and actionable advice, the book outlines a variety of strategies for meeting new people, deepening existing connections, and navigating the complexities of social interactions. It caters to both introverts and extroverts, providing valuable insights for those wanting to expand their social circle or strengthen current bonds.
The book also focuses on helping shy individuals or those with limited social experience become more engaging and confident in social situations. It provides guidance on initiating conversations, finding interesting people, and transforming oneself from a shy wallflower to a social butterfly.
101 Ways to Make Great Friends is an essential resource for anyone new to a city, starting a new job, or simply looking to make new friends, as it offers the secrets to building a robust and supportive social network.Amazon
Excerpt from 101 Ways to Make Great Friends © Copyright 2023 Nathaniel Ament
8. It’s time to start talking to more people
I understand that diving into the world of socializing and making new friends can be daunting and overwhelming, but I want to reassure you that it's okay. We're starting from the basics and building up from there, so just take it slow if you need to.
This was the hardest part for me, I had always been pretty shy, but was occasionally able to open up after I knew someone, but it was always those first few conversions that made me feel so awkward. But there's no getting around it, if you want to learn how to be more social you just need to start talking to more and more people. Luckily, there are people everywhere, so it's easy to do once you get rolling!
One of the ways I got started was by simply talking to more people while on my daily routines. Everywhere I went, I took advantage of the opportunity to chat with those around me. Whether it was at the grocery store, work, a bar or club, or even just running errands, I made an effort to strike up conversations and practice my social skills. I even went as far as going to the mall and chatting with the employees in every single store…except the lingerie store. At first, I just asked basic questions and then worked on incorporating some friendly banter as I got more comfortable. This is a pretty low-risk way of getting your feet wet, customer service workers are paid to be nice and rarely call the cops. That was a joke, I have a really dry sense of humor sometimes.
Believe it or not, the majority of them are pretty bored at work and they often welcome a friendly bit of conversation. So don't be nervous, just be chill and friendly, and you'll find that the people are often open to chatting with you. Just be sure to also pay close attention to their body language, and make sure you're not annoying them.
It probably took me about 200 conversations before I felt confident and comfortable enough to see that I was improving. At first, it can feel daunting, but with time and practice, you'll find that it's not such a big deal…and guess what? It can actually be fun.
9. What to talk about
If you want to boost your social skills, it can be very helpful to be a more curious and knowledgeable person. Having a very wide range of knowledge and a thirst for learning can do wonders for your social interactions. Become like a Renaissance Woman or Renaissance Man and be more curious about every subject there is – like science, music, art, technology, film, video games, psychology, fashion, business, history, and all that good stuff. Keep your eyes and ears open, watch Youtube videos, read articles, and just soak up all the information you can about new things that spark your interest. You never know what interesting connections between seemingly unrelated subjects will make for great conversation.
When you have a vast pool of knowledge, you'll have a much easier time finding interesting subjects to talk about with others. For example, if you're talking about music, you could transition into a discussion about different genres, which could then lead to a talk about different artists and music producers. Or maybe you're talking about a movie and then you start talking about the director and other films he's done, then you start talking about similar directors or maybe branch off into science fiction topics that were touched on in a recent film. That's what makes you an interesting conversationalist and helps keep the conversation flowing. Knowing lots of stuff about many different subjects.
Being curious and knowledgeable about a wide range of subjects is key to building stronger social connections and having more interesting and engaging conversations. Some people only know a lot about one or two subjects, which is fine, but it makes it hard to have a real conversation about anything else that's interesting.
Moreover, being knowledgeable about a variety of subjects can also help you to better understand and connect with people from different backgrounds and cultures. By being well-informed, you can have more interesting conversations with others and can gain a deeper understanding of their perspectives and experiences, and it will help your conversations flow.
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