Relationships… They always start like they're about to be perfect, only for us to discover one thing after another. Sure, we love people around us with their good parts and their flaws. We're not perfect, either. But certain things are impossible to live with…

I’ve always believed that each relationship is different. Each individual is different. Every couple is unique too. What works for some people won’t work for everyone else, so I’m quite anxious when it comes to general relationship advice.

But then, there are things that feel different. Certain aspects simply hit differently. Many relationship books are nothing but just fluff, and trust me, I've been through a lot of them.

There’s also a good category of relationship help books. I'm not sure how to describe them… They're not too general, but they'll train you, change your mindset and help you make better decisions.

They won't necessarily tell you what to do because, like I said, I don't think couples are all alike.

However, getting some training on what to do is a completely different kettle of fish, and that's when they make the difference.

With these ideas in mind, here are a bunch of relationship advice books that will definitely help you out, whether it comes to finding love, handling your relationship, or fixing or improving it.

What Are The Best Books on Relationships?

Love is a Space, by MaryAnn Welch (2024)

Love is a Space is a spiritually rich book about understanding and practicing love. It's perfect as a gift for weddings, anniversaries, or any special occasion. The book, written in prose, teaches that love is one of the keys to life.

The author, shares that loving yourself and others comes from recognizing and nurturing your own spaces of love. She believes that even the toughest experiences, like walking through vulnerability, help us grow in courage and love.

What stands out is MaryAnn's personal story. At over 80 years old, she has lived through cancer and many hardships. Her experiences bring a deep, real perspective on love that can truly touch and change lives. This makes Love is a Space a meaningful and emotional read.

Habits of Love, by Anh Sphabmixay (2023)

Love… Such a big word with so many meanings. We all see and feel love in different ways. To some people, it’s family or parents. To someone else, it might be their partner. To some other people, love is about romcoms or some random sitcoms.

It's got so many meanings, and they all relate to the same feeling, after all.

Now, love also comes in more forms. It could be domestic love or perhaps spiritual love, not to mention the most common feeling, the intimate one.

But then, not every love relationship is a positive one, and that's when issues arise. Plus, believe it or not, some people can't even tell if they're in a toxic love relationship.

Now, how do you know you’re in the right place?

This book explains love in a very detailed manner, but it also underlines the signs associated with an unhealthy relationship. It will help you determine if you're on the right path, and if not, you'll learn what you can do about it.

And trust me, the outcome can be pretty surprising…

Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?, by Dr. Julie Smith (2022)

This is one of those relationship books that can be considered a bestseller. First, it comes from one of my favorite love doctors, Julie Smith, who certainly knows what she’s talking about. Then, it’s got plenty of great reviews and recommendations from popular authors and quite a few celebs.

Anyway, the book is based on clinical psychology. The doctor shares everything you need to know to go through the happy moments in life, as well as the challenges you may experience in love. And even if you think you’re in the right relationship, there are still plenty of things to learn from it.

There are plenty of secrets, things you’ve never even thought about in the past.

Plus, you'll learn how to deal with criticism, handle anxiety, battle low moods, build self confidence, and motivate yourself whenever you feel down.

Bottom line, there’s something to learn from this masterpiece, by far one of the best relationship help books on the market.

Women Who Think Too Much, by Susan Nolen-Hoeksema (2004)

Guilty! I've been there, and I know what it feels like. If you overthink things, you imagine all sorts of bad scenarios, or you're always anxious about the future, this book is for you.

I think most women go through this issue at some point or another. Plus, since our lives are so fast paced now, I think it’s absolutely normal. What’s not normal is the fact that we ruin ourselves. It’s like something that eats you from the inside.

Anyway, no matter what negative ideas you have in mind, this book from a renowned psychologist will give you the advice you need to fix yourself. Because yes, you’re broken, even if you don’t know it.

Too much overthinking will make you suffer and cause severe problems like depression and anxiety.

All in all, this book will give you the main causes of overthinking, and yes, you'll find them quite familiar. More importantly, you'll find strategies to overcome the problem and improve your productivity in love. It’s by far one of the most useful relationship advice books you’ll ever read.

And whenever you feel like you’re down again, grab the book and read it again. It always works.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, by John Gray (2012)

This is a classic, isn’t it? Even if you’re not into relationship advice books, you’ve definitely heard about this one. It’s a top rated release that gained notoriety from all over the world. What you need to know is the fact that its popularity is given by how well everything is explained.

This book can save your relationship, gain more meaningful insights into it, or perhaps even start a relationship.

The author’s explanations are spot on. You’ll learn how to prevent letting your emotional baggage ruin your relationship. You'll also learn more about words and gestures, what they mean to men and women, and why meanings are different.

With these thoughts in mind, just because something doesn’t make sense to you, it doesn’t mean you have to ignore it. Instead, you’ll find out what your partner means. It’s a matter of communication, which can always make or break a relationship.

Women Who Love Too Much, by Robin Norwood (2008)

Your relationship is one of the most important things in your life, no doubt. However, people sense love in different ways. If you feel like you’d die for your partner, they may not feel the same way. It’s normal. Annoying, I know, but normal.

If you’ve ever felt like obsessing over your undeserving partner, this book will fix you straight away, trust me. I guess this feeling is quite common, and we all go through it at some point or another.

Sometimes, these things are in our imagination only. Other times, they’re real. Many women end up in toxic relationships. They’d try anything to fix them, but they just sink deeper and deeper.

This book is like a psychology manual. Coming from a marriage therapist, it will describe the elements associated with unhealthy relationships, as well as their addictive elements. In the second part of the book, you’ll find out how to find real and sustainable love.

The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, by Elaine N. Aron (2001)

If you sometimes feel like you’re too sensitive, this book is a must. Even if you feel strong, the fact that others see you as a sensitive person means you might need to change something about it.

Indeed, no matter how much we fear being heartbroken or how sensitive we are on the inside, we’ll never try to show it, but those around us can still see it.

People who are too sensitive are more prone to experiencing failed relationships. Risks of an unhealthy relationship are overwhelming and totally not worth it, but there’s not much you can do about it. Until now…

It's extremely important to understand the sensitivity and what it truly means. It can be an excellent asset, but it can also make a relationship painful.

Based on scientific research on sensitivity and temperament, this is one of the most detailed relationship books out there. It has a more professional approach, but it’s easy to understand.

It offers a deep insight into temperament and sensitivity, as well as plenty of practical advice on how to make as much as possible from your relationship. Trust me when I say it will change your life overnight.

Never Chase Men Again, by Bruce Bryans (2015)

This is one of those relationship help books written by a man for women. I think that's convincing enough. You'll know precisely what men think, how they see women, what they fall for, and what they tend to overlook.

If you feel like you’re chasing men and you simply can't find love, this book will put you on track straight away. You'll find out how to keep men interested in you, without having to play any games. You won't become anyone's doormat, either.

So, what does a woman need to become irresistible and find the perfect relationship? According to the author, there are two things.

First, you need excellent self-confidence, or better said, self-respect.

Second, you need to follow some solid dating rules. They’ll help you navigate through dates until you find the perfect man.

What I truly like about this book is the fact that everything is crystal clear. There's no fluff or general advice that you can find for free over the Internet. Instead, you'll have to do this and that, and you'll see results straight away.

If in Doubt, Wash Your Hair, by Anya Hindmarch (2022)

This is another bestseller, another excellent book that will clear out the meaning of love, help you understand what it means, and make you feel more powerful.

The book is written from the author’s personal experiences in life, things she's learned overtime, things that hurt her, and things that made her happy.

The best part about it? All these things come from a woman who's pretty much everything, a mother, a businesswoman, a stepmother, and an entrepreneur. They come from a woman who’s powerful and busy, yet still able to enjoy a happy life.

Again, this is a straightforward book. You’ll get plenty of practical tips for all kinds of situations, as well as deep observations and inspiring advice to help anytime, anywhere.

How Women Rise, by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith (2018)

If you always sense fear when it comes to opening up about your ideas and concerns, this book will make you change it. It’s a book helping women rise. It’s about love, but also about business and personal achievements.

From claiming your achievements to getting the recognition you need, it touches multiple aspects in a woman’s life.

I know, it’s not 100% about love, but trust me, it will bring in some practical pieces of advice that you’ll be able to use anytime, anywhere. You'll learn things that you can use with friends, your partner, your boss, or colleagues.

All in all, the author focuses on 12 problematic, yet very common habits that prevent women from reaching success. Of course, the book also offers detailed solutions on how to handle these obstacles, break bad habits and adopt a more positive approach.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, by Steve Harvey (2015)

I'll be honest with you, I read this book because of the title, and I don't regret it. It's a bestseller, and for some good reasons.

The author shares plenty of relationship advice and wisdom, regardless of the problem you might experience. It offers a hands-on approach for all kinds of situations.

It makes no difference if you date a gamer, you're married to mummy's boy, you feel like you're in a toxic relationship, or you feel belittled. This book will help you maintain the spice in the relationship, keep cool in different situations, deal with ex-partners, and much more.

You’ll have an abstinence calendar too, but I won’t provide too many spoilers here. There are tests for you and your partner and much more.

Keep in mind that the book has been through a few revisions, so I recommend getting the latest expanded edition, which offers practical tips for more modern situations as well.

Final words on Books for Healthy Relationships

These are probably some of the best relationship books I’ve read over the past years.

Like I said, it makes no difference if you’re in a happy relationship, you feel like being stuck in a toxic one, or you're still looking for real love. There's useful advice for everyone in these books, and they're suitable for all kinds of situations.

If you are more interested in dating check out the following dating books list.

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