A Teen’s Essential Guide to Social Anxiety Relief by Emma Lou Parker
Step-By-Step Methods to Help You Overcome Social Anxiety, Avoid Triggers, and Find Relief| Feel Confident, Comfortable, and Happy in Any Situation!
Overcome Your Social Anxiety by Getting to the Root of the Problem With This Book That Will Help You Every Step of the Way
Effective Self-Help and Self-Reflection Methods to Help You Live Your Happiest Life!
Do you feel like social situations are a total nightmare?
Do you feel like you can barely say a word around other people?
Do you struggle with negative thoughts and social stress?
You’re not alone.
Social anxiety is one of the most common mental health disorders in the world, especially amongst teenagers.
Teens with social anxiety often feel like they're the only ones struggling and that there's no way out. They may feel embarrassed or ashamed to seek help.
But it doesn't have to be that way anymore.
Discover step-by-step methods to help you overcome your social anxiety, along with practical advice so you can finally start living a happier life!
With this book, you will:
- Understand the root causes behind your anxiety: Figuring out what’s wrong is the first step to finding the best treatment.
- Uncover effective methods that actually WORK: With over 10 different methods, you’ll surely be able to find the one that works best for you.
- Finally get the help you need: It can be scary trying to navigate your anxiety disorder alone. Know that this book is here to provide step-by-step guidance so you never have to feel alone.
- Get realistic and relatable advice: Skip all the useless and unhelpful advice that won’t even get you on the path to recovery.
- And more!
Imagine feeling confident, comfortable, and happy in any situation – no matter how nerve-wracking it may seem at first. That's what this book can help you achieve. It's packed with helpful information and advice that will guide you on your journey to social anxiety relief.
Excerpt from A Teen’s Essential Guide to Social Anxiety Relief © Copyright 2023 Emma Lou Parker
I wrote this book for my teenage self. I am sharing this book because I hope I can change your future life as a young adult and hope that you can enjoy all the experiences life has to offer. And without wasting time. I wish you success in the biggest challenge of your life. Overcome social anxiety. Reach out to others without fear, make friends, speak in public, speak in private, find love, show off your talents, ask for a raise, apply for your dream job, negotiate the price of your first car, etc. .. All those things that are impossible when social anxiety takes over, I want you to be able to do them.
It's a long road… but it's worth it…. Let's do this!
Yes, faith is essential for success. You have to believe in something to move forward. Not necessarily in a God. But you should have a sincere faith. First of all in yourself. Believe in yourself, believe in your resources, believe in your success. Believe also in the method. If you have too many doubts, it will stop you and your mind will use it as a false excuse not to move forward.
Then you need to believe in what can sustain you. It can be God, a guardian angel, the universe, Gaia, the love of your family, the strength of a friendship, science, destiny etc. It can also be a mentor, someone who inspires you like Nick Vujicic who has no arms and legs and swims, surfs and lives happily with his wife and 4 children.
When you think your life couldn't get any worse, think of Nick! If an immigrant child harassed at school, without arms and legs has managed to build his happiness, you can too! I think Queen B is a great mentor too! Or why not Monkey D. Luffy who never give up.
Valley of disappointment
What is this crap? This is the place where you will find yourself when you start making changes in your life. Because, at the beginning, there’s a gap between the results you expect and the results you get. We all believe that our progress will be linear. But it doesn't work that way at all, AT ALL. First there is a long plateau where nothing seems to happen. It is during this time, that we learn and things fall into place little by little. That's what will bring you results. But at the beginning nothing is visible. That's why you can feel disappointed. It is during this period that you’ll want to quit. It's understandable, it costs us to make efforts and to stay motivated. But there are no rewards, no results. But YOU are not going to give up. Because now you know that it is natural that you do not reap the rewards of your efforts quickly. It's still frustrating. But if you know that your work is not wasted then you will find the strength to keep on working.
Just hold on long enough and you’ll see your success.
The method in five steps
Step one: Choose a notebook and write your commitment letter
Optional (but helpful) step: Find a “Healing Buddy”
Step two: Make your reward list
Step three: Pick two or three easy tricks to the chapter “strengthen your mind
Step four: Choose at least one method to manage your anxiety on a daily basis (Breath, Meditation, Mindfulness, Sport, Yoga…)
Choose at least one emergency tool to help you
Step five (the big one): Work on your exposure hierarchy. Start with imaginal exposure
Bonus: Unfollow toxic people and follow accounts that make you happy
All along the process:
Track and reward your progress
Use the “Not Now” trick
Keep in mind that it will take time. It’s a long term game!
Remember your promise: Whatever you choose to try, you will do it for at least 2 months before you say it's not working and give up
The following steps should be introduced gradually and one after another. Don't do everything at once or you will become saturated and increase the risk of giving up. Wait until you are comfortable with the first steps
- Work on your worst thoughts/beliefs (you have a lot of method that you can choose from the book: CTFAR model, the questioning, Toltec agreement… )
- Work on chapter five deeper
- Work on a healthy sleep pattern
- Work on building your confidence
- Build better relationships
How to use it
Make your own program with a daily routine that includes relaxation and journaling, choose your favorite relaxation techniques, of course build your own progressive exposure scale. You can make several scales, one per theme.
Make a list of dated goals. But be reasonable. You must not saturate yourself or you will give up. Apply the 1% a day rule. If you are just 1% better every day, then in 100 days you will reach your goal.
Choose your best positive affirmations and put them on your computer wallpaper or on a virtual post-it note on your smartphone. Record yourself and play back your affirmations in the morning and/or evening. With Audacity you can even add some nice music.
Just do the first step and the others will follow!
Remember: Everything you want is on the other side of your fears
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